Thursday, September 16, 2010

Signs that you must move on

Here is an excerpt from the article, "Signs That You Must Move On," written by Christina Frank:

How to know when he’s for real
Since it bears repeating, let’s review a few of the traits that will tell you unequivocally that a guy is into you:
  • His actions match his words. He doesn’t just say he loves you or wants to be with you because he thinks that’s what you want to hear; it’s obvious by the way he behaves.
  • He introduces you to his friends and family within a reasonable amount of time. This indicates that he’s increasingly serious about making you part of his life.
  • His behavior is consistent. He's into you one week and then distant the next. His affection for you is something you can rely on.
  • He tries to please you. Because he’s genuinely interested in you as well as your thoughts and feelings, he acts on that. He knows you love the color yellow, for example, so he shows up with a bouquet of yellow flowers.
  • You don’t feel like you’re doing all the work, and you never find yourself making excuses for him. As psychologist Geraldine Merola Barton puts it, “The truth is, we always find time for the things we value. If he’s into you, he’ll call, period… no matter what.”
I sent him the e-mail last night.  I fully expect to not hear back from him, and I'm OK.  I know that I deserve more.  I found a very fitting quote (author unknown) for this situation:  "You get what you accept and you deserve what you tolerate."

A huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders.  I cannot say that I'm not sad.  I've invested almost a year in this adventure.  While it was fun at times, it inevitably was not meant to be.

1 comment:

Ellen@FirednFabulous said...

I agree with everything here ESPECIALLY the comment about not making excuses for him. I've totally been there. "But when it's just the two of us, he's really sweet/thoughtful/affectionate..." Bullshit! Yeah, had to learn the hard way!